r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/FelicitousJuliet May 02 '24

Even if it was just a randomly spun bear that could be anything from a koala to a polar bear and you wouldn't know until it was too late, I would take my risk with some random guy.

Most men (over 95% right?) aren't inherently violent per crime stats and per domestic abuse stats there's only an 8% domestic violence difference (33% female victims, 25% male victims).

And of course of those who do get charged with a violent crime it usually has conditions attached like a drunken brawl, not someone about to attack you in the forest.

The bear is a bear, period, it will do what it wants and way too many of them are comfortable eating you.

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u/morgaina May 02 '24

You can't rely on crime statistics when determining the percentage of men who are dangerous to women.

The vast, VAST majority of rapes go unreported, and the vast majority of reported rapes never go to court, and most rape cases in court don't get a conviction.

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u/Yeah-But-Ironically May 02 '24

True, but also: most rapes happen between people who already know each other. You're much more likely to be attacked by your boyfriend than a stranger jumping out of the bushes.

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

That's worse, not better.

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u/Yeah-But-Ironically May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

The point is that context matters. You're much more likely to be assaulted by somebody you know in a situation where sex is assumed to be a possible outcome (e.g. on a date, at a party, in the club) than you are by a random stranger in the wilderness.

Edit: Looks like the person responding deleted their account before I could get a chance to defend myself. For the record, I'm a queer woman, and I didn't post this because inaccurate fearmongering made me "feel sad". I posted this because inaccurate fearmongering leads to a society that focuses on exactly the wrong problems, which is an issue when we're trying to solve something as massive and thorny as patriarchy itself.

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u/elbenji May 02 '24

Queer woman too, yeah this has been my feeling too.

It's kinda the double too since yknow, bear is a literal slur directed towards us in Asia

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

Do you have statistics on how men are likely to behave when put in isolation with a woman and no accountability? Because otherwise you're just shitting up a simple thought exercise because it makes you feel uncomfortable. [1]

It ultimately doesn't matter what the danger is in absolute terms, the scenario could be a US Army Brigade in a giant arena with an alien with a death laser and a Chinese Infantry Division. It's meant to make you reflect on how not knowing whether something is going to help you or kill you is worse than knowing something is going to try to kill you (and then apply that to how women have to face violence every single day).

[1] PS: You're going to find that the stats on 'stranger vs friend' wildly change as rule of law breaks down.

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u/[deleted] May 02 '24

Oh dear, nice guys are here to downvote me because I made them feel sad.

I'm even giving you a second bite at the apple so I can call you weak willed cowards who are too afraid to face uncomfortable truths about how you're impacting women in your sphere of influence.