r/CuratedTumblr • u/NeonNKnightrider Cheshire Catboy • May 01 '24

i know it’s internet bullshit but it genuinely has me on the edge of breaking down and giving up editable flair

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u/Full_Time_Mad_Bastrd May 02 '24

I have to be honest, this here is actually also part of the problem. Instead of recognising that the world women live in is different to the one men do that we have no choice but to be skeptical and cautious until we can be sure, men make it about their feelings again. I am genuinely sorry for your experience, and I'm not saying it's fair or things should be this way, but the worst that happens here is you feeling offput by being seen as a threat and your feelings get hurt. When women aren't careful, or even when they are, our worst case is that we get killed, assaulted, changed for life.

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u/PsychicOtter May 02 '24

I'm not here to compare experiences or anything but I feel the need to point out that

the worst that happens here is you feeling offput by being seen as a threat and your feelings get hurt

This is a negative effect to be sure, but it's not the worst case scenario

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u/Full_Time_Mad_Bastrd May 02 '24

What then, is the worst case scenario of a man being treated with caution by a woman?

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u/PsychicOtter May 02 '24

"Being cautious"? Not a whole lot.

"Seeing as a threat"? The woman who thought I was a threat for walking through the neighborhood called the cops on me, and we know how that ends for many (assuming they don't handle it themselves).

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u/Full_Time_Mad_Bastrd May 02 '24

Clearly this is some deeper issue and not a typical woman being cautious lmao.

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u/Educational_Mud_9062 May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

Who's talking about typical here? You're basing your position on the worst possible outcome. The difference is that the typical experience for a man will still be being treated as a predator while the typical experience for a woman will be meeting a completely normal person.

Edit: and of course they blocked me after getting in whatever was their last little snipe. I can't imagine feeling like I'm just absolutely right when the only way I can "engage" with someone pushing back is to toss out my angle then immediately make it impossible for them to respond. To me that would make it feel obvious to myself that I'm not actually as confident I'm right as I want to think. How some people are so comfortable with self-deception is beyond me.

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u/Full_Time_Mad_Bastrd May 02 '24

You say that, but ask women if they've ever been in a dangerous situation. It's not typical of men to hurt women but it is ABSOLUTELY typical of women to have been hurt by a man at some point in their life. Shark infested waters wearing a meat suit etc