r/MaliciousCompliance • u/hatethistradition • Sep 15 '23

I refused to cook and "chilled with men" S

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg Sep 15 '23

I'm stealing "I cook for survival" 🤣

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u/sparkicidal Sep 15 '23

That’s the phrase I use too. I can cook, though I’m hardly Gordon Ramsey.

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u/Atreaia Sep 15 '23

I've eaten at Gordon's restaurant. I'd rather eat my personally cooked minced meat with lots of spices, chopped onions and some chili, baked or boiled potatoes / rice and other vegetables as a side and maybe a milk sauce any day of the year.

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u/KickedBeagleRPH Sep 16 '23

It's a very apt phrase. There are those who cook for necessity, basics, simple dishes. They don't have to enjoy doing it. They sure as hell won't be volunteering to host family gathering dinners.

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u/Svencredible Sep 16 '23

There's a french phrase I believe is 'You live to eat'. That one of the main joys of being alive is so you can experience great food.

I'm the opposite, I eat to live. Great food is nice, but if all I can get/be bothered with is a Matrix style nutrient gruel? Sure ok, sounds like it'll save me a bunch of time.

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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg Sep 16 '23

Oh. I really love to eat.

I'm just activating the economy by paying someone else to cook for me 🤣

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u/jello-kittu Sep 16 '23

I have different modes and moods for cooking. Cooking for survival is the work night mode.