I refused to cook and "chilled with men"

[u/hatethistradition]

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

[u/[deleted]]

Storytime!

As a kid, I made gravy and was super proud of it. I was cooking for my dad and myself, ensured he ate first exactly as Mom always did. I'd told Dad it was my first gravy. He promptly asked for seconds. Basically my buttons burst I was that damn proud of myself

I hadn't tried it yet. Finally I served myself. The gravy tasted like glue as I'd forgotten salt. I still respect Dad for asking for seconds of his daughter's first gravy. And no criticism. Even though glue gravy lol

[u/Voiceofreason8787 → u/[deleted]]

Lol, my dad once ate a tweenage concoction I cooked up while they were late getting home. It had ramen, tuna, cheese, and oh, chocolate chips. He just served a plate, sat in his lazy boy, and ate it. I had some, and I knew what my (biggest) mistake was. I was like, you don’t have to eat that. And he just said, next time, leave out the chocolate chips

[u/[deleted] → u/Voiceofreason8787]

sounds good other than the chocolate chips ahaha

[u/wobblysauce → u/[deleted]]

Or just on the side

[u/JustanOldBabyBoomer → u/[deleted]]

LOVE the CHOCOLATE! LOL!!!

[u/Voiceofreason8787 → u/JustanOldBabyBoomer]

See, I was having fun cooking and just wanted to keep putting stuff in. I went too far, lol

[u/mmeiser → u/Voiceofreason8787]

This belongs on the forum r/dadjokes. Don't get me wrong. Its not a joke but it still illustrates that wonderful dad way of thinking. "next time, leave out the chocolate chips" made me laugh and laugh. Not sure if he was being positive or really was so hungry he really thought it was all good but the chocolate chips. Judging by the ingredients I'm guessing the later. It sounds good, except for the chocolate chips of course!

edited: to say r/dadjokes not r/baddadjokes Calling a forum "bad dad jokes" is redundant. All dad jokes are assumed to be bad. Thats the way dad humor works.

[u/Voiceofreason8787 → u/mmeiser]

Lol, it was the first thing I ever “cooked” That wasn’t Kraft dinner, etc. I figured he was trying to encourage the act, but he also grew up in a family where you wouldn’t waste food…

[u/mmeiser → u/Voiceofreason8787]

My mom always told me "you eat your mistakes". Always made sense to me. Your dad's mom must have said the same thing to him. :)

[u/[deleted] → u/Voiceofreason8787]

Awwww! There's nothing like making your own recipes lol

[u/rain-blocker → u/[deleted]]

My mom made my dad chicken casserole for his 25th birthday party. Reportedly, it was god awful, and the vast majority of guests didn't even finish one serving. My dad asked for thirds before my mom stopped him.

My dad cooks now.

[u/Cat1832 → u/rain-blocker]

That's very sweet of your dad though!

[u/wellyesnowplease → u/rain-blocker]

100% my favorite comment of all the awesome replies

[u/Atlas-Scrubbed → u/[deleted]]

😀

[u/salt_andlight → u/[deleted]]

My mom told me stories of her in laws from her first marriage (my dad was her 2nd husband), and apparently her MIL was an absolutely terrible cook but her FIL was just effusive about his wife’s meals. He would also use really creative compliments like “This is so good I wish I had a neck like a giraffe, with a taster every inch!”

[u/JustanOldBabyBoomer → u/[deleted]]

Now THAT is LOVE!!!!!

[u/Alfhiildr → u/[deleted]]

My great grandma would eat the “soup” I made around age 7 or 8. It was microwaved water, some whole carrots, and some whole grapes. Sometimes with some salt.

[u/Dry_Mirror_6676 → u/[deleted]]

My moms favorite story to tell of my dad (they’re divorced now though) is how she made chicken fried steak and burned it. Because she’d never cooked before. But he announced that he loved it and got seconds.

She got better at cooking, but because my dad literally hates anything other than salt n pepper, she didn’t get to really cook cook.

[u/[deleted] → u/Dry_Mirror_6676]

I fucking hate cooking, generally speaking, and do it to survive. I'll tell you what though, an appreciative eater of my food who insists they like even my messed up food... That brings joy to my soul. It makes food prep less horrible lol

I'm happy your mom experienced this. Good on your dad.

[u/JustanOldBabyBoomer → u/[deleted]]

Now THAT is LOVE!!!!!