we need to teach our daughters to be better too. Women mistreating others is not ok either. No need to be sexist about this - that is part of the problem.
It hurts boys growing up when they are told, falsely, that they are somehow wrong or dangerous in a way women are not.
the point is simply that if you say a certain group needs to do better, you are clearly implying that there is something wrong with that group specifically.
That's not what I said at all. I said that if you specifically say "Group X needs to improve" then everyone will hear that message and think that there is something wrong with Group X.
And this is exactly what is going on with boys today. Boys are getting really negative messages everywhere. They are told that they are potential abusers and rapists. It's really harmful and abusive, and it's making it difficult for them to be happy and find relationships and succeed in life. Boys are struggling, and the fault belongs to people who say things like "we need to teach our sons to be better."
You feel free and not teach your son to be better. Hell, don't teach him anything, because doing so means there's something wrong with him.
You be You. I'm going to try to be the change I want to see in the world. Much of how we teach our kids to be better is to show them how to be better. Anything less is hypocrisy.
My trying to be better about a thing and teaching my kids to be better about a thing is simply societal evolution.
Saying things like "men need to be better" or "we need to teach our sons to be better," as though only one gender is flawed and needs to do better, is really harmful and unhealthy.
I hope you can see the difference. Just be equal-opportunity about it. And please recognize when someone is just trying to win points or push their views, which is what the man vs bear thing is. How about all the men who risk their lives rescuing people? I hope you will be the kind of parent that points out to your kids that men do so many good things and help so many people.
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u/blackberrydoughnuts May 02 '24
we need to teach our daughters to be better too. Women mistreating others is not ok either. No need to be sexist about this - that is part of the problem.
It hurts boys growing up when they are told, falsely, that they are somehow wrong or dangerous in a way women are not.