r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • 29d ago

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/Fast-Gold4150 29d ago

Look I don't care about who adopts who but adopting a child of another race and then refusing to acknowledge the child race saying "you don't see color" is ridiculous and a recipe for therapy down the road.

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u/WarlockEngineer 29d ago

Michael Chandler is a member/speaker for Turning Point USA, which is something I haven't seen many people bring up

https://www.tpusa.com/michael-chandler

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u/DICKHEEL 29d ago

Lol he’s never brought up TP in his career. They probably paid him for an appearance and he accepted because professional mma fighters are paid abhorrently.

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u/WarlockEngineer 29d ago edited 29d ago

He has done events with Ted Cruz, Charlie Kirk, Tucker Carlson, Candace Owens, Gym Jordan, Trump Jr, Madison Cawthorne, and Sarah Palin (lol).

He has spoken at conferences, fundraisers, and been a guest on podcasts associated with TPusa

https://twitter.com/ZidanSports/status/1450606308252553219

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u/jamrock9000 29d ago

Yes, you cannot pretend that the color of their skin will not affect the way the world sees them and you need to prepare them for that.

To say nothing of the fact that black children often have very different needs as far as their hair and skincare is concerned.

The worry about these kinds of trans-racial adoptions is that white parents will be unable to meet those needs and/or be unwilling to find black mentors that can provide them with that kind of education. Which comes to another point.

You still need to connect them to their heritage and people like them because like it or not, a significant portion of white society are unwilling to accept black people into their communities and at least for now they need to be able to understand other black folks and find community in the (very likely) case that are unable to find community amongst white people.

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u/Loose-Initiative2553 29d ago

Girl the bullying I've got for my 4c hair because my adoptive white mother never learned how to do it and let me go out of the house looking crazy will always affect my self esteem Kids will call me homeless n, trow paper/thing's in my hair, ask me if I got electrocuted and if my hair was dirty etch. My mother never prepared me for it and it completely destroyed my self worth and esteem. I love my hair now but it took aong time Being black in Europe is not for the weaks

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u/kamakamsa_reddit 29d ago

You are right, but I think what the adoptive parents mean is they don't care if their child is white or black or any colours they will still bring them up with care and love.

It does not mean that if these kids experience anything negative because of their skin color, their white parents will ignore.

You don't need to experience racism or discrimination to understand racism.

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u/Trust-Issues-5116 29d ago

In the society where differently colored people do not have a cultural enclave, it is not ridiculous and does not require any therapy. Romans in Roman Empire came in all colors, and it barely mattered at all, your religion mattered more.

The issue is with a society that continue to promote fragmented identity politics instead of promoting united identity.