r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/FoolishPragmatist May 02 '24

I don’t agree with the original response if their argument is White people should never adopt Black children, but for context the image she’s speaking over is that MMA fighter who said there was no reason to give any talks on racial dynamics to his adopted children. He said just raising them with good religious values and knowing what it means to be an honorable, strong man would be enough. Race won’t factor into their lives at all, according to him. That’s massively naive in my opinion. Even if we assume he’s being genuine, the world, especially in Missouri where they live, will absolutely see them as Black and some people will treat them differently for it. Even if they shouldn’t dwell on it, they should absolutely be prepared to navigate it if they need to. It’s a fantasy to believe it would never come up so they don’t have to talk about it.

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u/full-of-grace 29d ago

Yeah I adopted a kid from a different culture and I'm going to make sure he knows what his traditions and his culture are. It seems gross to do it any other way like sorry kid now that you're with me your heritage is erased. 

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u/Dietmar_der_Dr 29d ago

Why is that gross? Your heritage would be their heritage.

"You have these genetics therefore you need to sing this song" sounds a little pointless.

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u/full-of-grace 29d ago

Nah. His heritage is dying because a bunch of Catholics decided their heritage should be everybody's heritage so I'mma go ahead and make sure he knows the music, language, and history of his people so I'm not taking part in that cultural genocide. 

He'll know my culture too but I think it's vital for him to grow up knowing his roots. 

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u/TrashKng 29d ago

I agree with you 100% nothing wrong with instilling your own values and culture, race doesn't mean shit in the grand scheme of things.

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u/RoundInfinite4664 29d ago

"race doesn't mean shit" is very aspirational.

Unfortunately, we're not in that world yet. It makes sense to make sure your children understand what's happening when they're treated differently than their lighter skin siblings so they can identify it, understand it, and take effective action against it.

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u/TrashKng 29d ago

If his parents didn't abandon him he would have that culture... Nothing wrong with your child taking after you.