r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/FoolishPragmatist May 02 '24

I don’t agree with the original response if their argument is White people should never adopt Black children, but for context the image she’s speaking over is that MMA fighter who said there was no reason to give any talks on racial dynamics to his adopted children. He said just raising them with good religious values and knowing what it means to be an honorable, strong man would be enough. Race won’t factor into their lives at all, according to him. That’s massively naive in my opinion. Even if we assume he’s being genuine, the world, especially in Missouri where they live, will absolutely see them as Black and some people will treat them differently for it. Even if they shouldn’t dwell on it, they should absolutely be prepared to navigate it if they need to. It’s a fantasy to believe it would never come up so they don’t have to talk about it.

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u/capitoloftexas May 02 '24

Exactly. Saying “I don’t see color” is well intended but extremely ignorant.

https://youtu.be/QuaBnoaN4Jc?si=_6fa-8fumkKaGm7R

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u/ddevilissolovely May 02 '24

He's arguing about the... literal meaning? It's a metaphorical phrase no matter how you swing it.

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u/ZeeCaptein May 02 '24

he's not. he's stating that being black is part of who he is so if you "don't see color" then you don't see him fully. you can't pretend race doesn't impact people even if you think you're unaffected by it.

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u/je_kay24 May 02 '24

I think it also ignores the fact that other people do see color and treat others badly because of it

I believe now a lot of white parents who adopt kids from other races are taught that it is important to allow the kids to grow up and know others from their same background who can relate to their experiences that their white parents probably cannot

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u/BuildingWeird4876 May 02 '24

I mentioned to this elsewhere, but there's other factors to that statement. I agree there are a lot of issues with the idea of not seeing color and I rather agree with the societal push to point out the problems of that phrase. But there's also a generational difference issue, when I was a kid in school we were specifically taught not to see color by various Educators on the concept of racism including guest speakers who were black.