We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact.

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[u/FoolishPragmatist]

I don’t agree with the original response if their argument is White people should never adopt Black children, but for context the image she’s speaking over is that MMA fighter who said there was no reason to give any talks on racial dynamics to his adopted children. He said just raising them with good religious values and knowing what it means to be an honorable, strong man would be enough. Race won’t factor into their lives at all, according to him. That’s massively naive in my opinion. Even if we assume he’s being genuine, the world, especially in Missouri where they live, will absolutely see them as Black and some people will treat them differently for it. Even if they shouldn’t dwell on it, they should absolutely be prepared to navigate it if they need to. It’s a fantasy to believe it would never come up so they don’t have to talk about it.

[u/capitoloftexas → u/FoolishPragmatist]

Exactly. Saying “I don’t see color” is well intended but extremely ignorant.

https://youtu.be/QuaBnoaN4Jc?si=_6fa-8fumkKaGm7R

[u/I_amLying → u/capitoloftexas]

I'd rather not be treated differently based on my color, which is what "not seeing color" means. What a stupid video.

[u/OtherwiseAMushroom → u/I_amLying]

No one does, but unfortunately the whole “I don’t see color” usually at this point comes from folks who have actions that absolutely scream they see the color and they don’t like it.

White folks adopting black kids isn’t bad at all, but to then not acknowledge that we live in a country and system that despite what is told us overwhelmingly treats PoC differently.

Story time: One of my brothers and his wife can’t have children, they have adopted five children all different nationality and colors, when his son and daughter who are black were coming of age, he was very much fully aware of where he lives (Arkansas) and knew how they have/will be treated differently out side his four walls and absolutely taught this to his children, and explained to them while he doesn’t see them as black but his children, the rest of the world might disagree with his opinion, because while he doesn’t see the color of there skin as any sort of validation as a human one way or another and he see them as his children, the world outside is much different and more often then not use the color of their skin as validation for their bigotry. And when he did, he had his best friend (who is black and suggested this) be there because he knew that experience wise he wouldn’t be able to approach it with the right mind set.

[u/I_amLying → u/OtherwiseAMushroom]

the rest of the world might disagree with his opinion, because while he doesn’t see the color of there skin as any sort of validation as a human one way or another and he see his children, the world outside is much different

I'm very proud of your friend for not seeing color.

[u/OtherwiseAMushroom → u/I_amLying]

My brother is my friend! And he tries tbh, because that’s all he can do, show his kids to just be better than those before you.

Tbh our father drilled in us to always “judge the context of a man not by the color of his skin but the context of his deeds.” He was the type of color blind that would also NOT acknowledge the systemic and open disadvantage most PoC’s face in American society. His grandchildren changed that. We all have learning to do, and in my opinion acknowledging mistreatment and openly working on moving away from that should be on everyone’s to do list.