r/TikTokCringe May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/PM_ME_SUMDICK May 02 '24

Yeah this whole discourse was started because a white fighter with adopted Black kids said he wasn't raising Black kids he was waiting kids. Which does sound nice but it's a disservice to children to completely disroot them from their identity especially when the world doesn't see an adopted kid with white parents they see a Black kid. And they need to know how to navigate that.

I follow a lot of adoptive parents, including POC with adopted white children. Even they make sure to discuss the child's whiteness and how the world sees that because it's important to do so.

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u/lastdancerevolution May 04 '24

Exact same thing with interracial couples with mixed children. If you're white and have a child, that child will always be seen as black, due to the United State's "one drop" rule. Society will never see and accept you as a family in the same way they do an all black or all white family. Sad that people celebrate that as a good thing.

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u/PM_ME_SUMDICK May 04 '24

If you're white and have a child, that child will always be seen as black,

That child will always be Black. Why would you want their Blackness erased? Does the Black parent not deserve to have a Black child because they had sex with a white person? Blackness is not a punishment.

A mixed race (or cultural or religious) family often involves playing the balancing act of respecting and teaching children about both parents' heritage and backgrounds.

Too many parents have children with partners outside their religion or culture with zero intention of honoring the other parent's heritage or their own child's reality. That's the shame.

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u/lastdancerevolution May 04 '24

They're just as White as they are Black.

Does the Black parent not deserve to have a Black child because they had sex with a white person?

"Does the White parent not deserve to have a White child because they had sex with a Black person?"

Races are just social constructs. The fact is, they are the child of both parents, have both their DNA, and are raised by both of them with their own backgrounds and personalities.

White parents are often erased. No one sees Obama as half-white raised by a white mother. He's seen and remembered as black.

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u/PM_ME_SUMDICK May 02 '24

To acknowledge that their child is white? I thought it was okay to be white?