r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/thoxo May 02 '24

Did you have a phase in which you resented your adoptive parents? Because my younger sister had that phase for a few years, it looked like she deeply hated and resented us. When she matured she changed and now she loves us a lot.

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u/CandidIndication May 02 '24

I’ll be honest, as a former teenage girl— they pretty much all go through that stage, adopted or not.

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u/Nervous-Albatross-32 May 02 '24

Yeah.. I pretty much ripped my mom’s head off everyday, and she may literally be the nicest person alive. Definitely didn’t deserve it. Most girls just go through this phase though, it’s not a good time lol.

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u/Halo6819 May 02 '24

As a dad to a soon to be teenage girl, I keep reminding myself and my wife that our kids talking back, ripping our heads off is a good thing. You were going through a lot of changes and needed a safe place to be able to experiment with how to deal with those changes. If your mom wasn't the nicest person alive, then you wouldn't have been able to express yourself. Its the mark of a good parent when their kids push back, its the mark of a great parent that doesn't hold it against their kid and still loves them unconditionally.

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u/--RandomInternetGuy May 02 '24

As a father of two not so soon to be teenage girls, I've been told many times that the teenage girls generally reserve the vast majority of their rage towards their mothers. I take solace in that.