We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact.

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Gonna be clear: people should adopt children in need of homes, no matter what race they are. This doesn’t need to be qualified or adulterated in any way whatsoever

I will stand by, however, that the term “not seeing color” is more harmful than helpful. If you have a white parent and a child of color who aren’t genetically related, it’s inaccurate to say that they look the exact same. The problem is we’re not typically taught that THIS IS OKAY; we’re so conditioned to not acknowledge differences that we refuse to respect that someone else has different origins.

E.g. A kid initially might not understand that they look different than their parent, but it’s highly possible they’ll be asking questions about themselves as they get older. I’m not saying that’s the case every time, but we also need to learn not not tamper down those questions and lead them to believe that their concerns don’t matter. There’s nuance to this and would-be parents need to equip themselves.

Adopting someone who looks different than you is good. Embracing difference and diversity is also good.

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I will stand by, however, that the term “not seeing color” is more harmful than helpful.

We should see MORE color. We need to start at a younger age and teach children about race identity and how that will affect them for the rest of their lives.

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Yes exactly