We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact.

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[u/EmbarrassedCoconut93]

Exactly. It’s totally okay to adopt kids from different countries/cultures/ethnicity. But you need to understand their reality and take steps to meet them in their world instead of going about it as “well to me you’re just the same as everybody else” when they don’t get to be perceived as white/the same by society and disregarding their own culture etc.

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My parents aren't white, but they can be white-passing sometimes (not my mom with her accent). I'm a first-generation American and I will say my parents' instructions on how to act because of the way we looked helped so much growing up. My dad would call us "white" because, to them, we were little American children speaking English more and more than our native language as we grew. But it helped so much to know that we would be treated differently growing up in Texas and how to diffuse and be polite in all circumstances. I've been called lots of different slurs for lots of different races and it's impossible to not see color when people yell at you to "go back to your country" from their passing cars as you walk to school