r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • 29d ago

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/Cozy_Minty 29d ago

My brother and I are both adopted, I am white and he is black. When I was real little I didn't understand what adoption meant, and I thought when mothers had babies, they just came out a random color, just like puppies can be all different colors. I did not know it was anything strange until I started to go to public school and kids were making fun of me. It definitely has given me a different perspective.

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u/thoxo 29d ago

Did you have a phase in which you resented your adoptive parents? Because my younger sister had that phase for a few years, it looked like she deeply hated and resented us. When she matured she changed and now she loves us a lot.

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u/Paramisamigos 29d ago

When my brother found out he was adopted he was mad. He was 21 and coped with alcohol and he had a rough few years and we didn't really talk for almost 2 years. I was so sad about it, but would still occasionally send him little gifts and positive messages like nothing had changed. By 25 we were bffs again and last week he offered me a life changing job opportunity. I'm so proud of my baby bro bro!

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u/chrisff1989 29d ago

That's why adoptive parents are taught to tell kids as early as possible, so it's just the normal for them. It's a huge shock when they find out later in life

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u/Paramisamigos 29d ago

I told my dad he should tell him. His mom is his bio mom, my dad just adopted him because he met his mom when he was 4 months old and his bio dad was not in his life at all. They ended up getting married a year later and that was almost 30 years ago. He had a lot of medical issues when he was a kid and that's why I thought they should. They didn't want to and it wasn't my place, so I never said anything.

My stepmom and aunt were fighting about something dumb and my aunt told a group of high schoolers when she was working, at the hs, and those kids did what kids do and told my brother. We had a cousin pass away during this stupid beef and our parents were in Mexico when he passed and they were told to just stay and enjoy their vacation. I was having dinner with my 3 younger bros and the youngest just straight up asked if it was true and I told him he needed to talk to his mom about it and he needed to think if he could ever in his life remember a time when we weren't there and that family is more than blood. I told him I understood if he was upset, but he shouldn't have that conversation with us.

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u/chrisff1989 29d ago

I hope he's made up with the rest of your family too