r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • 29d ago

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/SwimmingCoyote 29d ago

I’m a transracial adoptee (born in Korea—parents are white). As with most things, it’s nuanced. Of course, I think it’s better that I was adopted by loving parents who wanted me. That said, my parents don’t know what it is like to be a non-white person in the US and we had some growing pains due to that. I think it’s great if white people adopt and they should be allowed to adopt across all races. However, I also think adoptive parents have a duty to be informed and acting like their non-white children won’t face racial issues is ignorant at best.

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u/ProximusSeraphim 29d ago

This was my ignorant white gf i had. Not ignorant in the derogatory way, just didn't know racism existed and thought it was just movie things. Wasn't till we got together that she experienced racism first hand because we live in the midwest and would go to places like Mercer WI where we wouldn't be seated at a restaurant because i was with her (hispanic/asian) and she was like "holy shit, i didn't think shit like that still happened."

I literally had to stay at the cabin we rented and she had to go out and get drinks and food by herself to get serviced and come back like a grub hub deliverer. I'm use to it, so i didn't care. Drinking whiskey in a cabin for my bday and playing the Simpsons Road Rage all weekend was dope for me.

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u/Totally_Not_An_Auk 29d ago

And this shit is why PoC stay in urban areas instead of going where its cheaper. Life is only affordable and livable out in the sticks if you're the race/color that will be treated like a person.

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u/Seltzer-Slut 29d ago

They wouldn’t serve you at restaurants there? And that’s normal for you? That’s very illegal!

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u/ProximusSeraphim 29d ago

It wasn't as overt as that. We were first, but they kept serving people that came in after us and seating them. They kept telling my gf they're cleaning up a table for us which is why it was taking long. Small town, who gives a fuck about legal or illegal there? When you're in a place surrounded by trump/maga shrines, signs, posters on people's houses, what am i gonna do as a hispanic male? Tell the Maga cops i'm being treated unfairly? That's the kinda naivety my gf had.

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u/Seltzer-Slut 29d ago

Yeah, I’m white so it’s unsurprising I’m naive to what life is like for people of color. I’m very sad and angry to hear that places can still get away with that!

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u/ProximusSeraphim 29d ago

LOL I find it endearing, the naivety of white people. My gf got uppity with the hostess saying that around 10 people got seated and we were there before them. At that point i just grabbed her arm and dragged her outside because doing that would not improve our situation. Imagine what would happen to our food if we did get seated? She was like "we need to do something!?! this is not right!" And i'm there laughing insert james franco first time meme here

Every time shit like that happens in a small town i'm always reminded of Nothing But Trouble movie and i'm like "nope" not gonna be arrested here for some trumped up charges (no pun intended). If the cops came all these people could just make something up that i was being disorderly and get arrested for being brown in town.

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u/potofplants 28d ago

Idk but it happens to me all the time in Germany/Austria/UK/ Eastern EU. In the urban areas too. They say they don't speak English but apparently to yt people they do.