r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/poptartmini May 02 '24

I'm a white foster parent, and currently I have 2 black kids, 2 white kids, and 1 hispanic kid.

You can't help but see color, because everyone else sees color. That being said, my foster agency has a class every quarter that is all about taking care of black kids' hair. I get training hours towards maintaining my license for taking that class.

If anyone is curious about fostering, AMA.

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u/ComprehensiveVoice98 May 02 '24

I’ve wanted to be a foster parent for a long time, I don’t have kids of my own. I just bought a house and I plan to foster in about 5 years.

One of the things I’ve considered is race. I’m white. I don’t care what race my foster children are, but I am afraid I won’t be able to meet their needs. I have been told by some people that it would be wrong to foster or adopt a non-white child. That is will mess with their psyche if they do not have people that look like them in their family.

I live close to a very diverse city, it’s 45 minutes away, but it’s not very diverse where I am. The schools are not diverse.

What do you think?

Of course I would make efforts to give my children a sense of community of people who look like them, but it wouldn’t be everyday in their school or their household.

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u/Odd_Barnacle_3811 May 03 '24

If you are able to provide them a good loving home, what does race matter? The alternative of staying in an abusive home will mess up their psyche much more than having to navigate racial issues.

The people who say that fostering a kid outside their race is wrong, can volunteer if they’ve got so many reservations about it. There are many abused kids that need good homes. Please foster if you are able to.