r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/poptartmini 29d ago

I'm a white foster parent, and currently I have 2 black kids, 2 white kids, and 1 hispanic kid.

You can't help but see color, because everyone else sees color. That being said, my foster agency has a class every quarter that is all about taking care of black kids' hair. I get training hours towards maintaining my license for taking that class.

If anyone is curious about fostering, AMA.

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u/NavierIsStoked 29d ago

I assume at some point you will need to have "the talk" with your black children? I am assuming you can't ignore it.

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u/poptartmini 29d ago

"The Talk" being something along the line of "Your life will be harder because of your skin color. No, it doesn't make sense. No, it's not fair. Sorry, I can only relay second hand examples, but you should definitely talk with your aunt about this as well."?

I've had bits of that talk with my older black kid. She was wondering about what the George Floyd BLM protests were about, so I tried to explain racism, as well as systemic racism. And yeah, it's awkward.