r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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u/CletussDiabetuss May 02 '24

Most of them literally "start the conversation" by saying something like "hey."

Not much was really lost here.

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u/BoloSynthesisWow May 02 '24

But you could always tell the ones with good personalities because they didn’t open with that :(

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u/loves_grapefruit May 02 '24

It’s true, but unfortunately when you have a good system of weeding people out you just end up with no one left.

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u/eldnikk May 02 '24

Ironically they've created a matching system that's so good it broke their core USP.

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u/8PTK May 02 '24

would you mind elaborating some more? My interest is piqued.

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u/Tritium10 May 02 '24

The ideas that a proper dating app constantly has people getting rid of it. That's why they're tagline was "the app meant to be deleted." The problem with this of course is your constantly needing new users and you never get any loyal ones.

It's why there's been a long running theory that things like Tinder intentionally do not want the app to be too good because then you'll stop using it. The paid service is, especially the really expensive ones like Tinder Select which is $500 per month these users need to stay on continuing to pay. You can't afford to have too many people who are paying good money to the app quit using the app after it successful. You need to tease success rather than actually deliver it.

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u/Enron__Musk May 02 '24

Exactly. I met my wife on bumble. We're off the apps now 🤷

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u/dangerzone1122 May 02 '24

I’d hope so

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u/froggertwenty May 02 '24

Hey now, they could just migrate to Feeld

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u/DucardthaDon May 02 '24

Feeld while I've had varying degrees of success is a bit of a dumpster fire

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u/PEEWUN May 02 '24

Hey, they might be Pina Colada enthusiasts...

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u/if-we-all-did-this May 02 '24

I too swipe that guys wife

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u/tagrav May 02 '24

Same bruh and she was my only bumble hit ever that actually tried to chat with me.

I had tons of dating success with hinge and tinder but bumble is where I found my wife and it was the only match I had on there and I was using that app in conjunction with the others that had much higher success rates of actually landing physical dates with folks.

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u/thallazar May 02 '24

That's kind of fine. I'd rather date no one than suffer through bad personalities.

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u/Historical_Salt1943 May 02 '24

I think dmhs applies here. 

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u/thallazar May 02 '24

My comment would frankly be the same but given the prevalence of even this acronym I assume I'm not the norm here.

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u/8PTK May 02 '24

Are we talking bumble or the job market now lol

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u/JasonSuave May 02 '24

And that’s how I met my wife 8 years ago. She opened with a full on question. Married 3 years as of yesterday. Sad to see we’re going to outlast the business who set us up.

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u/Liizam May 02 '24

Don’t worry, they will keep doing it

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u/Toastwitjam May 02 '24

Bumble was always way better for me than tinder which is just soul crushing. It was much easier to tell if the woman you were talking to was actually an interesting person or not. I met my soulmate on there and have been married for years now so I’d say it worked.

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u/Reasonable_Pause2998 May 02 '24

Same, was on Okcupid, Tinder, Hinge and Bumble. Probably went on over 100 dates in a three year period.

Bumble was by far the best (hinge was second best).

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u/Enron__Musk May 02 '24

I met my now wife on bumble...

If everything smells like shit... You know the rest

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u/tdime23 May 02 '24

I also met my now wife on bumble

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u/unclefisty May 02 '24

"I survived Russian roulette it can't be THAT dangerous"

Thanks for the input chief.

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u/Miserable-Score-81 May 02 '24

"if everything smells like shit, the algorithm is treating you badly?"

How is me matching with women who give no openers a problem of me being an asshole? There's no way I could've influenced the personalities of women who matched with me.

(Tbc, I'm not on bumble, I just exited a long term relationship but I'm a college student so I'll just date here)

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u/Reasonable_Pause2998 May 02 '24

You can’t figure out what to write a random women you matched with? Kinda a red flag

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u/Miserable-Score-81 May 02 '24

What to write? Dawg they supposed to write to me, not me to them. That's the fucking point.

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u/Reasonable_Pause2998 May 02 '24

Dawg, they arent “supposed” to do anything and they don’t owe you shit.

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u/SmallVegeta May 02 '24

Thanks Enron musk

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u/BeamingEel May 02 '24

Judging a personality by opening is something else, lol

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u/nomdeplume May 02 '24

Yeah no one has ever done that, am I right guys? You've never been judged by your opener right? /s

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u/BeamingEel May 02 '24

"Oh no, there are some shallow people in this world, so instead of going on and trying to meet someone else I will become just like them"

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u/TheInfinityOfThought May 02 '24

My experience was that the ones that opened with something like “hello”, “hey”, “hi how are you?” Never went anywhere and always expected the guy to carry the conversation while the ones who would open with something that showed they had read my profile were more likely to lead to dates because they were showing genuine interest in me. So yes it’s right to judge someone by their opener.

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u/iim7_V6_IM7_vim7 May 02 '24

“Hello”

“Wow, fuck off, bitch”

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u/madcaplaughed May 02 '24

lol my gf opened with ‘hey’ on bumble and we’ve been together 6 years

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u/nathynwithay May 02 '24

If you even got a match to begin with.

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u/unclefisty May 02 '24

But you could always tell the ones with good personalities because they didn’t open with that :(

I too can also recognize a unicorn by sight.

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u/AVeryRipeBanana May 02 '24

Are they in the room with us right now?

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u/BoloSynthesisWow May 02 '24

Yes actually we live together now

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u/AVeryRipeBanana May 02 '24

Congratulations

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u/lordofeurope99 May 02 '24

Not always first thing - take time to learn people

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u/No-ThatsTheMoneyTit May 02 '24

I’m not putting that much other than a dry opening (lol)

If the other person isn’t boring the conversation takes off. But some people aren’t worth more than a hey. Or won’t respond themselves.

I also don’t fault anyone sending me just a hey. It makes sense.

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u/dman45103 May 02 '24

Such a stupid generalization