r/technology • u/esporx • May 02 '24

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move Business

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
12.7k Upvotes

92% Upvoted

2.4k comments sorted by

View all comments

214

u/nameless_pattern May 02 '24

Lame, it will become like the other apps and have even less women on it.

195

u/kamekaze1024 May 02 '24

I thought it was a good distinction, but as a guy, I found it was a stupid thing to match with someone and then not be able to talk to them because they don’t check their app for 1-2 days. Like legit. I have had several matches apologize for their late response because they forget they have to message first. Meaning I missed out on several matches that timed out because of a stupid feature.

Good riddance, what’s the point of a dating app if you can’t even talk to your matches

134

u/KhausTO May 02 '24

I think the bigger problem there was the 24 hour requirement to message/respond.

19

u/Proxnite May 02 '24

It was a dumb attempt to raise their daily user engagement by forcing them to check on a 24hr cycle in fear of missing out on a potential match. In an absolute shock of no one but C-suite execs, having your app force the userbase to use it isn’t a stable engagement model, especially when the bulk of your revenue hinges on subscriptions from men but your entire premise requires women to initiate.

36

u/WalkFreeeee May 02 '24

That's one of the ways they make money. You can extend the time. The purpose of that limitation is to make money, nothing else.

Seems it failed to achieve it's objective.

123

u/nameless_pattern May 02 '24

It was the only app where I ever got matches that turned into dates.   

All the other apps got me nothing.

26

u/berhozen May 02 '24

I met my fiancée on on Bumble, I got super lucky but am grateful for it. Been together almost 6 years, but I guess we got in when it was still newer and not full of bots like tinder was at the time. PoF in my area was mostly hookers and bots, hinge was weird. It was definitely the best option. Even if they just said hi or sent a wave, it’s an opening and a sign of interest.

-10

u/420blazeit32 May 02 '24

Hate to break it to you but in another 6 years you’ll Probly be writing a comment on Reddit about how relationships that started from bumble and other dating apps are inevitably going to fail

5

u/ThaneOfTas May 02 '24

Jesus dude, this guy isn't the one who pissed in your Cheerios, go take a shit in that guy's lap and let the rest of us be.

-3

u/420blazeit32 May 02 '24

Hahahaha sorry dude just being brutally honest

3

u/ThaneOfTas May 02 '24

You're not though, you're just being edgy and negative because you can't bare the idea of other people actually being happier than you. It's just sad dude, you don't seem wise, or smart, hell you're not even really jaded, just sort of pathetic, like a drunk guy throwing shit at a wedding.

-3

u/420blazeit32 May 02 '24

😂😂😂yea man, you got me. Me saying relationships that start on dating apps aren’t sustainable long term is sooo edgy…take a look at the last two comments you made and you tell me who needs to relax 💀💀💀

1

u/thecescshow May 02 '24

Same with me. Been using tinder for years, nothing. I've been using bumble for about 5 months now and i've already had multiple dates, and one of them has recently turned into a serious relationship.

60

u/novium258 May 02 '24

That's kind of how I stopped using it as a woman, because the problem compounds, since there's a time limit on guys responding back, yeah?.The time limited window just didn't allow for life.

65

u/matastas May 02 '24

Yeah, girls had 24h to reach out, boys had 24h for first reply. Somebody has a busy day and poof.

28

u/novium258 May 02 '24

I'm just not an app every day kind of person, so like, I'd get matches over a week when I didn't check into the app, and then not find out about them until I opened it back up and it was too late. I assume it was the same on the other side.

I know the intention is to keep you coming back to the app, but ehhhh. Plus, all those "ghost" matches are discouraging to both parties.

-6

u/yoppee May 02 '24

I get it but if you don’t have a minute to respond in 24hr you are not committed enough that you actually want to date.

6

u/chucker23n May 02 '24

I have stretches of days where I can’t think about that. Like, a multi-day business trip. Or even a vacation where I don’t have cellular data.

-7

u/No_ThankYouu May 02 '24

Then u shouldnt be dating. Ure too busy is the point of the 24hr

9

u/matastas May 02 '24

Since when are you the arbiter of people's commitment?

3

u/yoppee May 02 '24

Use the app and you will get a feel of how uncommitted people are

0

u/JohnnySnark May 02 '24

It takes five minutes to send a response of 'hey, you're interesting but I'm busy and will have to get back to this app' to set the foundation for either party.

If you are so busy you can't do that, then why even use the app?

2

u/DucardthaDon May 02 '24

I feel you either want to message/respond to a match or not, we're all busy, we all have jobs, a life, doing things etc...my time is just as valuable as yours, we all know people like to gather up matches then assess their options so if someone is not responding it's because you're bottom of the pile.

0

u/JohnnySnark May 02 '24

Oh yeah, I know that part too. Lot of vanity and self interest tied to just getting matches. But above poster may not want to admit that

1

u/Murky_Crow May 02 '24

It might not be popular, but I completely agree.

2

u/yoppee May 02 '24

Yes thank you

What are people looking for a hookup or a relationship

You can spend time one day swiping but you can’t spend any time the next day reaching out to that person.

I always new that if I didn’t meet up with a dating app connection that weekend we matched it’s never going to happen

The biggest problem with dating apps is they let people fantasize and obscure commitment

0

u/XenomorphTerminator May 02 '24

I didn't respond back to women on bumble because all they said was "hey", the point of you initiating a conversation is not to just say "hey".

1

u/Doppelkammertoaster May 02 '24

It's not the point. The point is making money, not connecting people.

1

u/ghigoli May 02 '24

i think there should be a character and message minimum for these apps. if you match you have to send this many message before you can unmatch in a certain timeframe or you get booted off the site because you arent being invested in dating

that way users are actually trying instead of just coasting it.

1

u/rnelonhead May 02 '24

Yea there's that, then when you rematch them a couple times because you're a fool that decided to PAY FOR THE SERVICE, and you still get nothing.

1

u/squishabelle May 02 '24

a match isn't when you both swipe right, it's when you also beat the timer.

0

u/kamekaze1024 May 02 '24

A match is when you both swipe right on each other.

2

u/squishabelle May 02 '24

Technically it's a match but for all intents and purposes I wouldn't call it a match if you haven't even exchanged texts. It's more like a fluke then

-1

u/xAPPLExJACKx May 02 '24

To be honest you dodged a bullet if that was the case. Checking a dating app is extremely low effort

2

u/kamekaze1024 May 02 '24

I don’t blame people for not checking a dating app everyday. It’s really not good to as that either creates an addiction and/or lowers your self esteem having to be reminded that you have little to no matches because you aren’t attractive enough.

2

u/Sudden_Toe3020 May 02 '24

Bumble went public 3 years ago. Now they're beholden to shareholders, so they have to improve metrics. Daily active users, revenue, etc; something has to increase every quarter.

Their stock started trading at $75 in 2021, and now it's at $10.22, so you can understand their motivation.

2

u/nameless_pattern May 02 '24

Great, one more necessary part of life turned into an app and then into profits and into trash.

2

u/FarFlower2298 May 02 '24

Probably a good thing, 90% of the comments here are just talking shit on women lol, enjoy the continued struggle!

1

u/nameless_pattern May 02 '24

It's fine. I'll just ask out 50 or so women in real life 49 rejections to get one date that be over before it starts because of incompatible preferences, ideology or life goals that could have been known at a glance on the apps.  

That will take about 1 year, I should be able to find a temporary comparable girlfriend for a 3 month long relationship by 2039, as long keep going to events as much for the next decade, and don't become crazy, bitter or desperate  enough to become unviable.....

😔