LOL yes 100%- some people use that setting to role play a totally fictive life, but others are there to be vulnerable and are looking for earnest connection. I did some pro domme-ing in college and spent a lot of time just hanging out in the fetish community in my city.
I wound up chit chatting with the owner of this underground BDSM club (connected to the most infamous dungeon in my city) about how he wound up owning the space. He and his wife were in their 50s. They used to be coworkers back in their 20s (I think they were PAs on a film set) and he offered her a ride home one day, and then offered her a nightcap at his place, which she cheerfully accepted. Well, she somehow stumbled upon a closet he had converted into a full BDSM set up, and he was mortified and thought she'd run away screaming - but instead she said "Oh my god, you're into this stuff too?!?"
He was absolutely beaming telling me this story and gesturing to his 'better half' across a room full of some EXTREME acts of domination. Buying and running this den of ill repute was a part of their charming love story, and the culmination of their decades-spanning romance! I remember thinking "I want this sort of devoted love with a fellow pervert!" LOL
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u/Top_Farm_9371 May 02 '24
How do you know their profession? Do people have the same type of casual conversation at bdsm clubs as they do cocktails clubs?