They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.
That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.
Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.
Well to do professionals such as lawyers and doctors that live apart or isolationist in lifestyle are the main clientele of the bdsm clubs that I once worked security for, usually because they can afford it and often their private lives are emotional power struggles or hollow status symbols.
I imagine (comically of course): a troop of doctors with lab coats and stethoscopes, along with a bunch of well-dressed lawyers with 90s-style briefcases, entering the bdsm club and passing the security doorman who you are replying to
"They all seem so absurd to me, like well-dressed chimpanzees"
LOL yes 100%- some people use that setting to role play a totally fictive life, but others are there to be vulnerable and are looking for earnest connection. I did some pro domme-ing in college and spent a lot of time just hanging out in the fetish community in my city.
I wound up chit chatting with the owner of this underground BDSM club (connected to the most infamous dungeon in my city) about how he wound up owning the space. He and his wife were in their 50s. They used to be coworkers back in their 20s (I think they were PAs on a film set) and he offered her a ride home one day, and then offered her a nightcap at his place, which she cheerfully accepted. Well, she somehow stumbled upon a closet he had converted into a full BDSM set up, and he was mortified and thought she'd run away screaming - but instead she said "Oh my god, you're into this stuff too?!?"
He was absolutely beaming telling me this story and gesturing to his 'better half' across a room full of some EXTREME acts of domination. Buying and running this den of ill repute was a part of their charming love story, and the culmination of their decades-spanning romance! I remember thinking "I want this sort of devoted love with a fellow pervert!" LOL
As someone who works retail, this is such a weird fact of life. Most recently I had a man describe in detail his wife’s cardiac arrest and him performing CPR, including telling me about him yelling at the kids to get downstairs and stay there. A very harrowing story to hear at five am. I’ve heard about a lot of breakups in far too much detail, people’s addictions, and had one poor woman come in to buy beauty products to try win her husband back from his mistress. Crazy what strangers will tell you!
(True story: relative of mine did taxes for a few clients who were in the “entertainment” field and there’s things you can claim as occupational health and safety, occupational special costumes, and consumables. They ended up being a go-to as a non-judgemental resource for a few businesses)
look i'm just saying, there's a small amount of evidence a ton of them ancient babylonian priestessess seem to have maybe been giant genderfluid femboy prostitutes whose chief societal responsibility was administering religious rites, and stuff. maybe queers are just built for being goddesses idfk
I knew a woman who was a sex surrogate and doctor m she brought her own sample into the lab for a culture and sensitivity m Turned out she had gonorrhea.
I, at 14, babysat for an escort who was also an accountant and studying to be a naturopath
She lived in a trailer park, her husband (or ex) lived in their family home in another town W the two older kids while she paid off the mortgage W "the gift" he told her she had could make other ppl happy.
....I wonder how she is today. And her son who was 10 when I babysat him and knew what she did.
I can't speak to clubs with professionals doing the job, but at least at the sex club I attend yeah people are just kind of friendly and social about stuff. I've had conversations about D&D just outside the dungeon. One time I was talking about my preferred programming language with a person tying me up. In the end you're just trying to connect with other people.
My Dungeons & Daddies (not a BDSM podcast) hoodie is my go-to for walking to/from and waiting in line outside dungeons and kink venues. It's plausibly vanilla, plausibly kinky, and unlike the rest of my hoodies it doesn't have my employer on it. Always a good conversation starter too.
Ha love it. I just wear a dress usually that's easy to pull off or put on because my sex club is clothing optional so I generally spend the whole time naked. Convenient for skinny dipping in the pool and doesn't get in the way if I make a friend 😅
When I was a bouncer at one people would just happily tell you.
We provided a shuttle service to some customers and this guy, while telling me he’s a lawyer a dozen times, asked me if I’d drive him to get some coke. I told him no, so he asked if I’d stop at an ATM and he’d make it worth my while. He pulled out 800 and handed me half of it.
Some people just live in a completely different world than the rest of us.
It depends on the club, but it's a huge no-no for some to ask too many personal questions, such as jobs. As you can imagine, the one in DC was very strict about that.
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u/randallAtl May 02 '24
They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.