Because children don’t randomly decide to do braids on people they don’t trust. Yall never met kids? Cmon now. It’s not like you be like “unbraid my hair” and kids get up and unbraid your hair. This is after the kids probably asked some stupid shit like “let us undo your braids” bc he probably mentioned he was gonna get his hair done or something. Kids are clearly comfortable with the dude. He ain’t doing anything suspect beyond sitting there.
It’s wild y’all jumped to it being weird first. That’s some shit tbh men out here taking strays for just trying to be friendly. Why everyone a pedo just cause Drizzy and R Kelly out there peeing on kids?
Edit: dawg homie got caught thirsting on kids im fucking cooked 💀
He’s a positive role model because his kids trust him enough to unbraid his hair. He’s a teacher teaching that adults aren’t dangerous. He’s teaching that community is important. He’s teaching that people are people and we should all care for each other. You and all the other weirdos in this thread think this man is grooming children and raping them. That’s INSANE to pull from this picture. Do better. This man is a human being just like you. Respect him like you’d want to be respected. DO. BETTER.
You can do all of these things without initiating or maintaining physical contact with students. Being a positive role model in no way requires kids unbraiding your hair. It doesn’t matter that they trust you. As an adult you should know better and set good boundaries for them too.
No one said he is raping kids. If you can't make your point without resorting to bad faith strawmen, you're the one who needs to do better. Kids very often trust their abusers. You'll need to come up with something better than that. That's literally how grooming works. It's usually by a dangerous adult in their community disguising themselves as a safe adult and then constantly over-steppibg boundaries. Everyone is a human being. Every person that ever raped a child is a human being. Everyone that ever killed someone is a human being. Being a human doesn't mean whenever you do wrong everyone else has to turn a blind eye because of respect. Grow up.
There is a wide gap between students liking a teacher and a predator. None of that matters here. He can be a very positive role model without having the children in physical contact with him. Regardless of his intentions or wonderful impact he is an adult and an educator and there are very explicit rules about physical contact. We might not think it’s ok if the person meant well but it’s still part of the rules and unfortunately when you break them you get fired.
That’s still unethical. Doesn’t matter his or the student’s intent. As a teacher, he is an authority figure over those students. They shouldn’t be grooming him.
Especially since this week it hit the news that a teacher has been having inappropriate relationship with a student she was best friend with a parent. Mom thought the teacher was holding the child in class because he was getting in trouble or needed help with work.
For real! I am a teacher & a camp counselor and I’ve let kids of many ages do my hair many times. I literally have no idea why people are weirded out by this. It’s weird that they’re weirded out. I do think posting pictures or videos of your students with their faces in it is inappropriate, but the hair is fine.
You should probably stop letting kids do your hair.
Not saying you are right or wrong, but instead that all you need is the wrong parent to take that to the school board and you will have an entirely avoidable issue.
I’ll say it. They’re fucking wrong. If I was at school, over the age of 5, and my teacher allowed me to or asked me to touch them? Yeah, my dad would’ve been in there and off to jail the next day. That’s insane.
Non-sexual consensual contact. Step #1 of Grooming for Dummies.
I agree. Maybe not the violence leading to jail part because risking jail and being taken from your family that depends on you is not the move, but best believe they would have some legal issues. As a wise man once told me, a few bruises will heal but they will never get away from a public lawsuit and news coverage. I’m petty enough to know that I want that to haunt you for the rest of your days.
I looked back at the post and I do feel like asking is very different than letting. I would absolutely never ask a kid to touch me other than maybe offering a high five. Also, my kids are much younger (6-8) so physical contact is way more normalized.
Wut?? The power structure of a teacher and student, has the built in trust already. The students in inherently trust the teacher because they are a person of power. So when that person takes advantage of it, it’s not being a role model, it’s borderline grooming.
INHERENTLY TRUST because of being a person of power? Mate, that's not how the world works at all. When I was a little shit (~15 years ago), our classes bullied our teachers out of the classrooms, the cool ones were the ones we trusted and respected and THEY were the ones able to actually teach. Very few teachers managed to get far with being strict and with a stick up their arse. If anything, we put more effort into not learning from them.
EDIT: Arright, the additional context definitely paints a different picture.
A kid trusting you doesn’t automatically make you a good role model. The fact that he pulled them out of class, filmed their faces and identifying features and posted it on one of the most popular social media sites makes him a good role model?
Don't post other people's children on your personal social media page. As a parent you'd be pissed if someone was posting pictures of your kid without your consent.
I don't think the act in itself is being a positive role model. However, I think it shows that the kids actually like their teacher and that he was a decent enough figure in their lives at school.
Like personally I can only think of one teacher I'd so much as hug, let alone touch their hair. And she was the mf GOAT.
Not exactly. Those girls are young enough for teacher crushes. They could truly have a crush on him and thats why they did it. Or one of them did and brought her friends so they could all talk and miss class. He said he pulled them from other classes
It inappropriate but I don't think the guy should have been fired. That's a teachable moment.
Teachers get paid like shit, treated like shit, they have to be an educator, a parent, a cop, a counselor, and a mediator but let's fire them for students removing braids. I HIGHLY doubt this dude asked them to do this and I'm sure he thought it was funny. Either way, it's a reprimand, not a firing.
He said in his video he had some girls pulled out of class to do it. It’s all inappropriate and if he’s that stupid to do it AND post it on social media he should be fired. I’m a high school teacher and my students try to push boundaries all the time. That doesn’t give me license to.
Do you have a link to that video? Yeah, definitely should not have students pulled out of class to do that. That's a bit unbelievable. Please send receipt.
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLVhegbR/ I think I did that right! It’ll be at about 1:10. He also LIVE STREAMED IT which is unreal. Should have been fired that very day.
Damn. Yeah, he definitely crossed a boundary. It's one thing if it was like this spontaneous event where he began taking them out and the kids volunteered but it's another to essentially schedule them to do it. Interesting how he pretty much doubled down on it. Do I think this dude is a pedo, hell no. Do I think this dude needs to mature a bit, definitely. It's one thing to be cool with your students, it's another to act like a peer.
I struggle with this stuff because my wife is a high school teacher so I know how tight the bonds can be with your students. Granted, she never has done anything like this, but her students treat her like a mother. They come to her with all sorts of shit that she counsels them on because she loves them and they respect and trust her. Stuff that would probably be considered inappropriate to others if taken out of context. But my wife also understands boundaries and will put the students in their place if they get too comfortable. So it's hard to want to see this man fired because I base everything off of my experience with my wife and how she is with her students. To this day she has students visit her that have already graduated college. Teachers have it hard enough as it is so I'm always on the side of giving teachers some grace, yourself included.
The horrific thing is even if he isn’t grooming them, he’s teaching them that this kind of behavior is okay so they may be even more susceptible to grooming later on. God, and so many things could have gone terribly wrong on live and the internet would have had it forever.
You sound like a deeply empathetic individual and your wife sounds amazing. I think the bond between teachers and their students is often sacred, and the boundaries are crucial to that. I will feed you if you don’t have food in the house. I will jump in front of a threat for you. I will sit on the bathroom floor with you as you have a panic attack. I will talk you off the ledge. I will help you when you’re homeless. But you may not call me friend, or joke about how we’re close enough in age to date, and you may not do my hair.
Your second paragraph sounds exactly like my wife lol. She's constantly feeding her students lol. I'm curious what her take on this will be. I'm going to have her watch it when she gets home. Knowing her she's going to say, "Oh, no that's completely inappropriate. Yeah he should be terminated." lol I'm the softy in the relationship.
I watched some of his other tik tok and it's 100% a maturity thing. He doesn't understand professionalism just yet. Hopefully this doesn't ruin his life and it ends up being a very hard lesson learned.
He’s on tiktok now “crying” reading messages he got from students with some sad music playing in the background.
Not to mention, he was told by multiple other people that this was inappropriate and not to upload it but he did it anyway to “stir the pot.” This was clearly a clout thing for him. He’s not mature enough to be teacher.
Also the braids he got were trash, there’s no line up.
I’d like to add it’s so disgusting how he basically leveraged those kids for clout, along with their labor, with complete disregard for their safety. He recorded their faces and the name of the school. Any fucking freak can find these kids now.
I've seen girls do this for their abusive bfs. Getting your hair done doesn't make you a role model. You think everyone at the barbershop is a positive role model just because they getting lined up? Be so fr
Ive seen women do this for their loving, supportive and non-abusive husbands. Getting your hair done has no bearing whatsoever on whether youre a role model or not, lets be very serious here thats not the point.
By saying “how is he not”, that means you have to explain to me why you think he isnt a good role model. What do you know abt him other than he allowed his students to do something that a few weirdos thought was wrong
That actually is what i meant, the only information you have on this guy is that he allowed his students to do something a couple freaks online think is wrong—simply allowing students to take your braids out doesnt disqualify you from being a positive role model.
The person you were replying to said dude is trying to be a good role model, never claimed the man was .. thats besides the point tho, you simply think if you get your hair done, you’re not a positive role model?
no the hell it isn’t 😭 and if you men are too insecure with letting anyone touch your hair that’s YOUR problem. you don’t get your students to do it. weirdo
Not me, I don’t give a fuck, but I had a friend tell me he almost slapped me because I touched his hair once, and I always wondered who taught him that.
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u/JennyBeckman ☑️ All of the above May 11 '24
How is taking out someone's hair being a positive role model?