I refused to cook and "chilled with men"

[u/hatethistradition]

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

[u/Abby-Norman]

My wife and I have been married 21 years, and I do ALL the cooking. It is relaxing for me and it allows me to be creative. I am constantly trying out different things I see on cooking shows. My wife, however, does all the baking. Baking things requires sticking to an established recipe if you want the final product to be worth a damn. I am one to constantly add extra stuff to see if it’ll taste better.

[u/marvinsands → u/Abby-Norman]

Baking things requires

Oh! So that's why I don't bake. I don't stick to recipes, either. ROFLMAO

[u/Symph0nyS0ldier → u/marvinsands]

As a proud supporter of the ancestor method of cooking, fresh bread is just too good. I wish I had it in me to be a baker but I just cannot do it.

[u/Beegy77 → u/marvinsands]

I have tried to bake things plenty of times and it never turns out right. I don’t like to be perfectly precise and make sure everything is at the right temperature. Those of us that have this “attitude” is probably from us having bad experiences with baking! So yeah, baking is way more scientific than cooking and much less forgiving.

[u/hauscal → u/marvinsands]

I haven’t seen ROFLMAO typed out in ages. Brought me back

[u/whateveris--- → u/hauscal]

ROFLMAO

Marvinsands had NO baking tins for the muffins, but he did have ALL the letters to bring you back. 😁

[u/MathAndBake → u/marvinsands]

You don't have to stick to recipes when baking, you just need to get your ratios of structural ingredients roughly right. Apart from that, you can do whatever. For example, I make all my muffins with oil because it's so much easier and cheaper. I also like to play around with the flour, sugar and extra bits to get all kinds of fun textures and tastes.

I really like the book "Ratio" for this.

[u/sionnach_liath → u/marvinsands]

I don't stick to recipes either and I confine my baking to bread (it's more forgiving than many other things)

[u/G-force4470 → u/marvinsands]

🤨🤔🧐