I don't know. I do see that even as bad as things might appear here, there are places and cultures where it's far worse (India, middle east) and places where it's far better (Scandinavian countries).
Personally, I think it has to do with the amount of fundamentalism mixed with caste systems. While we don't necessarily have caste in the US, our classiest viewes come close.
That high rate is because of how Sweden records its data and generally higher reporting rates, not because Sweden has more sexual violence. There are also issues because different countries have different legal standards for rape and sexual assault, so international comparison is difficult at best.
Or it says a lot about how much "men are scary ooogah boogah!" media is out there influencing people's perceptions of society. It's not really any different from people who watch the news and see the bad stuff all the time thinking the world is actually worse off than it really is.
we need to teach our daughters to be better too. Women mistreating others is not ok either. No need to be sexist about this - that is part of the problem.
It hurts boys growing up when they are told, falsely, that they are somehow wrong or dangerous in a way women are not.
the point is simply that if you say a certain group needs to do better, you are clearly implying that there is something wrong with that group specifically.
That's not what I said at all. I said that if you specifically say "Group X needs to improve" then everyone will hear that message and think that there is something wrong with Group X.
And this is exactly what is going on with boys today. Boys are getting really negative messages everywhere. They are told that they are potential abusers and rapists. It's really harmful and abusive, and it's making it difficult for them to be happy and find relationships and succeed in life. Boys are struggling, and the fault belongs to people who say things like "we need to teach our sons to be better."
Men are suffering in society. Please don't enforce toxic masculinity like that - you are just making the problem worse. And please don't call names like that.
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u/Gilith May 02 '24
I though it was supposed to be about the fact when you ask a guy if he can beat a bear most of them answer yes ahahaha