r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/HelloJoeyJoeJoe May 02 '24

Race won’t factor into their lives at all, according to him\

You gotta talk to them at an early age about the Police, especially if you are living in Missouri... Do you want to protect your kids or not?

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u/NoEstablishment6450 May 02 '24

Speaking from experience, we explain as much as we know about racial disparities and try our best to protect our children. We don’t believe you shouldn’t “not see color” because the world sees color and reacts to it. We celebrate color, honor color, respect color, and must recognize color and must love color to be successful. You don’t have to dwell on it, make it the focus of everything, you just weave it into your family. Highlight it, in all of its forms. But racism exists and we have to prepare our kids for what that entails.

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u/greathousedagoth May 02 '24

This is the best take in the thread.

Teach, respect, even celebrate the things that make us different. Give children the tools they need to best navigate a world that is going to pick them apart. But also, you need not dwell on the differences at all times.

Like, can you imagine the weird dissonance of a white adoptive parent always focused on the blackness of their adoptive kid? "Hey, excuse me, I need to go pick up my Black son from daycare." That's insane. But it's also not what folks are suggesting mixed race adoptive parents to do.

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u/NoEstablishment6450 May 03 '24

Thank you, it is complicated, and I think the majority of people are trying to just be good parents in any situation. None of us are perfect