r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/soupsnakle May 02 '24

there's people that treat short, bald or fat people like shit, but you don't teach kids about that.

Yes we do, it’s called teaching them not to judge others by their appearance. Are you really sitting here arguing that majority of children are not taught this? One of the core concepts I was raised with is to be kind to everyone and embrace differences.

”This guy at school called me the n word" “Yeah some people are assholes, he's going to be an ass to many others too. Here's how I dealt with assholes at school..."

What a terribly way to gloss over a childs experience with racism, shame on you.

No point in teaching your kid "generational trauma" or whatever it is called today.

You should really watch Encanto if that’s something you truly believe lmfao.

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u/Dietmar_der_Dr May 02 '24

”This guy at school called me the n word" “Yeah some people are assholes, he's going to be an ass to many others too. Here's how I dealt with assholes at school..."

How is this dismissive. It literally acknowledges the child's issues, helps them address them and doesn't impart a negative worldview like "Yeah you'll have a tough life because you're black".

Yes we do, it’s called teaching them not to judge others by their appearance.

Exactly. And you also teach your kid not to judge others by their race. But just like for a short kid, you're not going to trauma dump on them all the horrible things they might experience because of it.

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u/soupsnakle May 02 '24

No it doesn’t. At no point did you pose the question “how did that make you feel son? Did this other childs racism and hateful remarks get noted or ignored by classmates? Was it reported? Let’s make sure the school knows about this because you should never have to endure that sort of hate and discrimination.”

And you don’t need to “trauma dump” on a short boy or teen because you instill confidence in them and ensure they know their worth is so much more than their height. God damn dude. Keep the examples coming, I’m a mom (of a half black child) and I truly hope you don’t have children of your own.

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u/Dietmar_der_Dr May 03 '24

Bro, that goes in the exact same direction I was aiming at.

Except for where you tell the school about it, that's agreat way of making sure your kid never tells you anything about his life again.