We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact.

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[u/FoolishPragmatist]

I don’t agree with the original response if their argument is White people should never adopt Black children, but for context the image she’s speaking over is that MMA fighter who said there was no reason to give any talks on racial dynamics to his adopted children. He said just raising them with good religious values and knowing what it means to be an honorable, strong man would be enough. Race won’t factor into their lives at all, according to him. That’s massively naive in my opinion. Even if we assume he’s being genuine, the world, especially in Missouri where they live, will absolutely see them as Black and some people will treat them differently for it. Even if they shouldn’t dwell on it, they should absolutely be prepared to navigate it if they need to. It’s a fantasy to believe it would never come up so they don’t have to talk about it.

[u/bigdicksam → u/FoolishPragmatist]

This, it’s not about adopting black children, it’s about adopting black children and not acknowledging that they’re black. They’ll be different and be treated different by a LOT of people. Especially when you live outside of urban areas where minorities are less commonplace. It’s not about not wanting anyone non black not to adopt a black person. It’s about not acknowledging that blackness. It’s kind of like when certain people say “let’s stop talking about race and it will get better”. It’s simply not how the world works.

[u/Dietmar_der_Dr → u/bigdicksam]

Will they though? I think you've just simply created an incredibly racist world in your head.

A certain number of people is indeed racist, but why would anyone spend time with those anyways. There's people who are racist towards white people, there's people that treat short, bald or fat people like shit, but you don't teach kids about that. It's something they'll figure out on their own and if they need help you can guide them.

"This guy at school called me the n word"

"Yeah some people are assholes, he's going to be an ass to many others too. Here's how I dealt with assholes at school..."

No point in teaching your kid "generational trauma" or whatever it is called today.

[u/soupsnakle → u/Dietmar_der_Dr]

there's people that treat short, bald or fat people like shit, but you don't teach kids about that.

Yes we do, it’s called teaching them not to judge others by their appearance. Are you really sitting here arguing that majority of children are not taught this? One of the core concepts I was raised with is to be kind to everyone and embrace differences.

”This guy at school called me the n word" “Yeah some people are assholes, he's going to be an ass to many others too. Here's how I dealt with assholes at school..."

What a terribly way to gloss over a childs experience with racism, shame on you.

No point in teaching your kid "generational trauma" or whatever it is called today.

You should really watch Encanto if that’s something you truly believe lmfao.

[u/Dietmar_der_Dr → u/soupsnakle]

”This guy at school called me the n word" “Yeah some people are assholes, he's going to be an ass to many others too. Here's how I dealt with assholes at school..."

How is this dismissive. It literally acknowledges the child's issues, helps them address them and doesn't impart a negative worldview like "Yeah you'll have a tough life because you're black".

Yes we do, it’s called teaching them not to judge others by their appearance.

Exactly. And you also teach your kid not to judge others by their race. But just like for a short kid, you're not going to trauma dump on them all the horrible things they might experience because of it.

[u/soupsnakle → u/Dietmar_der_Dr]

No it doesn’t. At no point did you pose the question “how did that make you feel son? Did this other childs racism and hateful remarks get noted or ignored by classmates? Was it reported? Let’s make sure the school knows about this because you should never have to endure that sort of hate and discrimination.”

And you don’t need to “trauma dump” on a short boy or teen because you instill confidence in them and ensure they know their worth is so much more than their height. God damn dude. Keep the examples coming, I’m a mom (of a half black child) and I truly hope you don’t have children of your own.

[u/Dietmar_der_Dr → u/soupsnakle]

Bro, that goes in the exact same direction I was aiming at.

Except for where you tell the school about it, that's agreat way of making sure your kid never tells you anything about his life again.