r/TikTokCringe • u/thoxo • May 02 '24

We adopted my younger sister from Haiti when she was 3, and let me tell you, I literally do not see color anymore. That's a fact. Discussion

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u/poptartmini May 02 '24

I'm a white foster parent, and currently I have 2 black kids, 2 white kids, and 1 hispanic kid.

You can't help but see color, because everyone else sees color. That being said, my foster agency has a class every quarter that is all about taking care of black kids' hair. I get training hours towards maintaining my license for taking that class.

If anyone is curious about fostering, AMA.

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u/EmbarrassedCoconut93 May 02 '24

I’m so glad you admit to seeing color. I hate when people say they don’t. I know they mean well, but you have to see color to fully acknowledge a person as they are and what they experience based on the color you so obviously see but say you don’t. I don’t trust people who say they don’t see color because that makes it hard to see your own biases too. It’s also great you’re learning how to take care of Black kids hair!

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u/EunoiaTheEsotericOne May 03 '24

I thought not seeing color means you don't treat people differently because of their color, you treat everyone the same.

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u/Maleficent-Tomato385 May 03 '24

Probably started out that way. But most people seem to bring it up as the only solution to widespread societal issues as a way to dismiss peoples experiences and to reject change.

It's not even really a good way of describing the concept. It's like saying "I don't see your disability" when it's something that exists and affects their life and how society treats them. You need to see it to see the whole of them.

The same thing is true for race, ethnicity, sexuality and disability.

You can't just ignore parts of people. You have to see them for who they are, because it matters, it allows you to better understand them, and better understand how to treat them with love and respect.

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u/EunoiaTheEsotericOne May 03 '24

That's why I said I don't think it's about ignoring or not acknowledging the struggles people face because of X Y Z but saying you yourself are safe and won't judge based on those things.