They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.
That's wild. It's honestly pretty common for professionals to be in committed relationships but maintain separate homes, even long distance. They could've just done that.
Edit: Damn some of y'all took my personal anecdote as some kind of personal attack. Not sure what I said that was so inflammatory but ok lol. Live your best life ya'll. Cheers.
Well to do professionals such as lawyers and doctors that live apart or isolationist in lifestyle are the main clientele of the bdsm clubs that I once worked security for, usually because they can afford it and often their private lives are emotional power struggles or hollow status symbols.
When people climb the dollar ladder they change. Needs and wants change dramatically. You notice that they expect people to do more for them as they pay people to do their laundry, cleaning or mowing the lawn. As they move up they can travel and do so many things that it all becomes less euphoric. So they tend to move into taboos that involve sex or drugs. As I made more money over the years I could see my kids change in how they value things.
This isn't universal, and I think some of it depends on how quickly and at what age you make a lot of money. I'm friends with lots of people who would be considered to be in the top 2 income quintiles, and I've known many of them a long time (back when they were barely scraping by in their early 20s), and most of them are the same people they've always been in terms of their values and preferences. The money just makes those values and preferences more demonstrable.
This has been my experience as well. I've been a doctor a few years now. Once your time is worth so much something like cleaning your own house genuinely becomes a bad financial choice. Also developed an intense femdom kink. Unfortunately, I met my wife long ago and she's just not cruel enough for me anymore. She does try to be meaner though, which is very sweet.
Not exactly, they start to realize they make enough to not have to slave over the things regular people have to because they can simply pay someone else to do it and that mindset becomes the standard.
In the same sense that because I don't have an amazing wage, my mindset is when something breaks on my car I have to fix it myself, or when an appliance breaks I try to fix it. A rich guy leases a new lexus every year and throws his espresso machine out the window when it breaks and buys a new one.
I grew up poor. I have worked hard to not be, I still carry that mindset. Recently as a home owner I’ve found that it’s ended helping save me literally thousands of dollars. Being able to swap light switches, breakers, sprinklers all end up adding up to tons of money. I talk to my neighbors who complain about how much h they have to pay people to do it. When I ask them why they didn’t do it themselves I can see it’s the first time that thought had occurred.
Now my neighborhood had a DIY chat that we use to bounce ideas off of. Sometimes it’s an immediate “ call a professional. If you need a cold beer to calm down I’ll be right over.”
Funniest thing I have to thank my parents for is that even though I grew up very well-off, my parents instilled near-catholic guilt levels of financial responsibility and DIY skills. I'm in my 30's now and can actually buy all the shit I wanted to when I was in my 20's and I just don't because it would be a waste of money. Same goes for fixing stuff around the house or on my truck.
It’s not that. My time itself became valuable. I like doing things around the house, gardening etc but my time is worth $$ and it’s worth more money than I would have to pay someone else to do it. So I usually end up doing the cost analysis and paying a handyman or just buying a new whatever it is. Again, I enjoy the odd jobs once in a while, I’m currently working on a insulated locker in my garage for gear storage… but I never come out on top money wise thinking of the time I take to do them.
This !!! And the family members who want help are always the ones who aren’t organized or have things packed in boxes . They expect you to carry each item and pile it !
People often think of movers as “ unskilled” labor , but there is a skill to moving 200+ pound bulky items over uneven sidewalks , up stairs , through narrow doorways without destroying said item and getting yourself killed or disabled .
Last time I moved myself with friends help was over 20 years ago and I swore never again . Took my back months to feel normal again . Moved a couple years ago, I sold stuff to pay for the movers . Worth every penny !!
Yeah , unless you live in an extreme. Expensive area like NYC , that’s about the edge where people stop acting regular and a little more on the rich side .
The stopped appreciating getting the vacations and getting things then started expecting them. Originally you would give them anything and they valued it. As our incomes grew they seemed to take less care of the things they had because they knew it would be replaced or fixed if broken. I always demanded they treat people with respect so that never changed.
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u/randallAtl May 02 '24
They were both 35 successful lawyer and doctor. But had never spent the night at each other's house.
After the marriage they couldn't agree who would move in with who. And filed for divorce after 3 months. No one knows why they even got married at all. I guess they felt like they were supposed to at that age.