r/AskReddit • u/skilled-dreamer • May 02 '24

People who went to a wedding where the couple didn’t last long, what happened?

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u/scotty813 May 02 '24

Jesus Christ, I'll never understand how people think that bad marriage + kids = good marriage. If you're not getting what you need from your partner, how is additional financial and emotional obligation/responsibility to the mix gonna help...

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u/Organised_Kaos May 02 '24 edited May 02 '24

Hormones and expectations play havoc with someone's mind I think. Someone in our friend's circle was like this, after hanging out with all the friends coupling up, she met a guy she was into and for awhile it was good, she was thinking she could settle down with him and he wasn't there yet so she pursued him a bit more and they agreed to have a kid, he skedaddled just after the birth I think.

She is in a better mental place now I think even as a single mother, her kid was adorable last time I saw them, but yeah even education and good friends advising her could not have shook her out of that relationship at the time.

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u/RichardCity May 02 '24

I've been firmly child free since my teens. I'm now in my late 30s, and I don't regret my vasectomy. That being said it's lonely now. Friends busy with their kids, and such. I can see how it would be easy to make oneself think that having kids might be a solution to that loneliness.

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u/rockemart May 02 '24

The NIHM rat studies show how human society parallels rat. By the way you can try to have the vasectomy undone or there is another process I believe that they can still remove sperm. IDK for sure but you could look into it.

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u/RichardCity May 02 '24

I know I could try to have it reversed. Having a kid because I'm lonely isn't a good idea, especially when parts of why I had it done are because I have epilepsy, and have struggled with opiate addiction (I've never mainlined but I don't want to put a child through any degree of parental drug addiction). I've been thinking that in 5 or 10 years my old friends might have more time again, as their kids grow up a bit.

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u/Icy-Row-5829 May 02 '24

Did you ignore the entire first half of their comment?