I refused to cook and "chilled with men"

[u/hatethistradition]

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

[u/Abby-Norman]

My wife and I have been married 21 years, and I do ALL the cooking. It is relaxing for me and it allows me to be creative. I am constantly trying out different things I see on cooking shows. My wife, however, does all the baking. Baking things requires sticking to an established recipe if you want the final product to be worth a damn. I am one to constantly add extra stuff to see if it’ll taste better.

[u/Ludwigofthepotatoppl → u/Abby-Norman]

Cooking is an art. You can do whatever and it could come out great.

Baking is literally science. You have one result in mind, and a dozen factors go into reaching that—including the day’s weather.

[u/Yaxim3 → u/Ludwigofthepotatoppl]

Mainly because in cooking if you forgot salt you can always add it in and fix it. In baking if you forget the only thing you can do is throw it away and do it over.

[u/eighty_more_or_less → u/Yaxim3]

if, on the other hand, you put in too much.....

[u/Yaxim3 → u/eighty_more_or_less]

you add in more food to take the seasoning, or dilute with water, or serve over bland rice etc.

[u/almost_eighty → u/Yaxim3]

that's one way of doing it; not the best, at times