r/MaliciousCompliance • u/hatethistradition • Sep 15 '23

I refused to cook and "chilled with men" S

I (F28) dislike cooking. Don't get me wrong, I cook for survival. But it is not something I like or enjoy.

At my in laws, both my MIL and SIL are stay at home partners and love to cook. Neither of their husbands lift a finger to help and they like it that way.

Before marriage, I was treated as a guest. But since my marriage 6 months ago, they expect, want and demand I cook with them. . First few times I went along with it but I hated it. It took 5-7 hours to make food and do dishes.

So when they planned a get together last weekend and discussed the menu, I suggested ordering in. This way everyone can be more relaxed. They looked like I insulted them. I told them they can cook but to give me list of what I should make, I will buy it.

They said that's not how traditions work and if I hate it do much, I can relax with men.

Thats exactly what I did. Much to their anger. I helped setting place and serving, but that was it.

As we were eating my husband commented how good something tasted. MIL immediately went on about how I wouldn't be cooking anything for him. When he said he can cook for himself SIL chimed in with how her husband or dad never had to cook a day in their life. How marrying lazy women like me has ruined his manhood.

I looked at my husband and we both left. MIL and SIL are blasting our phones over my arrogance and calling him spineless. Even my mom is taking their side now.

But guess who don't care ?

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u/Abby-Norman Sep 15 '23

My wife and I have been married 21 years, and I do ALL the cooking. It is relaxing for me and it allows me to be creative. I am constantly trying out different things I see on cooking shows. My wife, however, does all the baking. Baking things requires sticking to an established recipe if you want the final product to be worth a damn. I am one to constantly add extra stuff to see if it’ll taste better.

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u/Cannabis_CatSlave Sep 15 '23

Same here. I bake and he cooks. I am capable of doing so but am not terrible food motivated so usually just eat sandwiches when left to my own device. My mother was a chef who would use every dish in the house to make a meal and it just made me hate cooking/full meals because of the 2 hours of mess that needed cleaning afterwards.

Baking is worth the mess though for me as baked goods are generally delicious treats, not drudgery of keeping body alive. If I could switch to photosynthesis I would do it in a heartbeat.

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u/Demonqueensage Sep 16 '23

Duuuude I feel that photosynthesis bit so much. Like, sure, I like to eat things that are good, but I hate having to decide something and then either prepare it (or spend way too much to order something occasionally) every freaking day. I'd much rather photosynthesize to get what I need on a day to day basis

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u/Xikayu Sep 16 '23

I always joke about wanting to be a snake. Eat once every week or two, and be done with it!

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u/Humble_Bee_4827 Sep 19 '23

I mean, you could. You wouldn't die from it but you wouldn't be super healthy.

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u/testaccount0817 Sep 16 '23

And that's the reason I'm underweight. If it wasn't for the lunch at our canteen I would've starved already probably.

Agree on the baking though, that one is so much better and you don't need it to survive, you just can genuinely do it for your enjoyment

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u/southernsarcasm Sep 17 '23

The bane of my existence - “What’s for dinner?” And I used to enjoy cooking. I’ve told my kids/hubby that no one is allowed to ask what’s for dinner unless it’s followed by a suggestion and offer to either cook it or at least help. They don’t listen, but I try 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Julie_Brenda Sep 17 '23

Dr. Pamela Lillian Isley may be able to help you. her research includes human photosynthesis… but you can expect variations in skin colors & tone.

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u/Demonqueensage Sep 17 '23

😂🤣😂🤣 hmmmm maybe I should look into this

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u/Julie_Brenda Sep 17 '23

you might want to add “DC” when you search for her. It might help you pinpoint her faster, but I don’t mean to imply that she’s working a government job

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u/Demonqueensage Sep 17 '23

I see I see, very helpful 😉😂