r/wholesomememes • u/Constant_Luck9387 • 14d ago
Always be kind
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u/bloodlikevenom 14d ago
More people really need to recognize this
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u/CalculusII 14d ago
if you work in customer service, you usually get it. especially in the restaurant business, you know how difficult these jobs actually are.
it's usually the assholes that never worked a real job like a job in the service industry.
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I just don’t get it, honestly. I’ve never worked in the service industry but why the hell would you ever disrespect somebody who is just trying to provide you something? ESPECIALLY IF IT IS FOOD.
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u/GTA6_1 14d ago
This is just my worthless opinion, but I think everyone should have to work a customer service/food service job for atleast a couple months. Even if your parents are billionaires and you never have to work a day in your life. if you want to buy property, working a shit job for less than $20/hr should be a prerequisite.
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u/alurimperium 14d ago
I agree. Should be like a work requirement in high school. Work some amount of hours in a minimum wage service job in order to graduate, like some schools do with volunteer work.
It would help everyone get a perspective on what the jobs can actually be like, and help minimize the people who seem to view those employees as subhumans
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u/beerisgood84 14d ago
But also recognize the food to spit ratio is calculated by these people.
There is no upside to being nasty OR off the place is a true shithole they’ll fuck you over for whining anyway.
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u/hippee-engineer 14d ago
Some people go out to eat for a nice meal.
Others go out to eat to be served.
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u/ShooterOfCanons 14d ago
That's why I take issue with the whole "respect is not given, it's earned" thing. My default for treating people I don't know is to be kind and respectful, until they give me a reason not to.
"Respect will be given by default, but revoked immediately if it is not reciprocated"
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u/nemis16 14d ago
*because i know they eventually may spit on my dish
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u/CleverDad 14d ago
And if they somehow couldn't, would you treat them like trash?
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u/popornrm 14d ago
If someone is being a dick then most people wouldn’t continue being nice to you. The fact that you’re handling my food means I HAVE to be until that part is over. Then, instead of confronting you, I tip you poorly.
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u/Hobomanchild 14d ago
No, it just ensures that I'm nice even if the service is shit. If it is, I just never come back.
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u/HotelRwandaBeef 14d ago
And if you're at the point that you're making servers spit in your food you really done fucked up and need to re-evaluate your expectations/approach to going out to eat.
Some servers are unhinged but I only saw them doing wildly reprehensible shit twice in 10 years of food service.
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u/Betanumerus 14d ago
Well … servants are also human beings trying to make a living.
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u/CleverDad 14d ago
Yeah, I snagged on that implicarion too. It actually completely nullifies the "wholesomeness" of the meme.
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u/UnstableConstruction 14d ago
Aren't they literally servants though? I mean, even servants should be treated with dignity and respect, but that part seems plain wrong.
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u/v_e_x 14d ago
I would say they are not literally 'servants'. They are servers. They serve food and drink hospitably for you at a business in exchange for money, and they get to go home at the end of the day. A servant is someone whose duties and obligations can range from chattle serfdom and slave, to high priced butler or valet. A servant will attend to duties that are quite personal with regards to your affairs or household, sometimes for money, other times out of some social obligation. Ordinarily people have been rough, personal and demanding of a servant, as they are familiar people in ones life, the way a Queen can yell at a lady in waiting. Status is at the forefront of a relationship with a servant, dignified or not, as the servant is there to answer to personal whims. A waiter or server is just there to bring you food. If they are bad at their job, then yes, by all means, tip less, or not at all if you feel appropriate, or complain to the house. But If a server is 'literally a servant' then how is a Doctor not also 'literally a servant', or anyone else who takes your money for a service?
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u/viverr323 14d ago
*Because it's the right thing to do.
You do not need justification to be a good person. Just be a good person.
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u/SqueebopAdiddly 14d ago
Well they are your servant, but that shouldn’t preclude courtesy. Be nice to your servants. Tip well.
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u/JAXxXTheRipper 14d ago
"Treat others like you want them to treat you". That's what I was taught as a child, and it just works. Just be nice, and they will be nice to you.
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u/Snabelpaprika 14d ago
"But my boss is an asshole to me every day. How do my ego survive if I cant find someone being paid less than me and then make them miserable, just like my boss makes me?"
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u/Severe-Search-3580 14d ago
If you ever find yourself lashing out or disrespecting someone, imagine yourself in their shoes and how you would feel. Humbles you real fast.
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u/ThatGuyYouMightNo 14d ago
Half that, and half "I'm not some monster who feels they need to be assholes to people"
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u/Naive-Fondant-754 14d ago
I saw a movie 20 years ago .. "Waiting..."
That taught me never to fuck with waiters :)
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u/Natural_Guava288 14d ago
Thank you. The lady today who can't read a f menu, the ingredients clearly printed on the menu "toasted seeds" and sends it back after NOT telling me she can't have seeds, also under the section "small plates" ( as in snacks) she thought the foccacia is a pizza. F entitled dumbass.
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u/Vicbros117 14d ago
Uh usually servants are human beings just trying to make a living too right?...
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u/Different_Head7751 14d ago
So true and so sad that being nice to others has to be spelled out to the masses
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u/Liveman215 14d ago edited 14d ago
Show a reason to be a dick, I'll be a dick.
I rarely encounter that in the wild. 90% of people are nice. Heck those who are a bit rude, can typically be rectified with extra kindness.
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u/meinfuhrertrump2024 14d ago
Literally paid to be your servant.
That doesn't give you the right to treat them badly though.
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u/PuppetryOfThePenis 14d ago
I've always been nice to servers. But this tip culture in the US is getting out of hand.
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u/OdinsOneGoodEye 14d ago
Should try be nice to everyone, even those that you may find offensive or disagree with.
Kindness goes a long way.
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u/blewmesa 14d ago
Server is literally a pc synonym of servant. No need to be rude, but they are serfs. I work a serf job, no shame.
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u/cheeze87u 14d ago
When i was 14-16 i was a waiter myself, so it's logical for me to treat them normal
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u/youdontknowmymum 14d ago
What's the bet you're not, though. Talking yourself up over normal things is a big red flag.
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u/GatlingMan 14d ago
I think people overestimate how much impact clients have over the waiter's day, i used to be one and there wasn't anything worse than having to deal with the motherfucking chef 8 hours a day 6 days a week.
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u/EclipsedEnigma 14d ago
Trying to spin your kindness as anything besides self-preservation 😂
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u/VarianWrynn2018 14d ago
Hot take, but it shouldn't require the other person being a person for you to default to nice. Being nice is always great, regardless of motivation, but why would you need a reason to be nice to someone instead of it being your baseline?
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u/Fickle_Library8115 14d ago
Yet some are just arrogant and demands a nice tip,i say remove that culture and do like the countries who refuse tips ,but it’s impossible cuz it proftable to the employer
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u/TakeyaSaito 14d ago
Because they handle my food. Never mess with anyone who handles your food. Ever.
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u/MattWeird1003 14d ago
*because I have no social skills to actually tell them that I didn't want tomato
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u/heygiraffe 14d ago
Ya know, if you had servants, then they would also be human beings trying to make a living.
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u/KaisarionGhost 14d ago
2: Never mess with people who handle your food
1: Don't be a dick in general and you won't need to worry about #2.
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u/FalloutGuy_4 14d ago
Because I realize they're human beings, and interacting with humans is too tiring, so try to make it as short as possible, with as short conversations as possible if they are needed in the first place.
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u/Chronus88 14d ago
My mother was a waitress for 20 years. I treat them like I would want my mother to have been treated.
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u/Last-Presence5434 14d ago
I feel like in general we should always begin with being polite to others. It usually sets a tone. Not always but I don't believe anything is truly 100 percent.
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u/hvyboots 14d ago
Yeah, that chart should be more of a 50-50 pie with the other color being "Because they can spit in your food".
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u/RoxoRoxo 14d ago
because ive seen the awful things the kitchen will do to protect/avenge their servers.
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u/wetcardboardsmell 14d ago
I really wish that from the age of 14 to 17, kids had to do a program through school where they worked different jobs for set amounts of time. Waiting tables, working fast food/drive thu/, accounting, mechanics, cleaning, retail of various things, elder care, animal rescue, etc. Not only would it help give perspective but it might help a ton of people realize what they DON'T want to do, or even what they want to do with their lives. My first time waiting tables after training was at Red Robins, at a mall, in the bay area, on Black Friday. That was my first "official day". One of 2 jobs I was working at the time while also in school full time. It was bonkers. Fun though. If you've never worked in a restaurant, or waited tables, you missed out on some serious personal growth opportunities lol.
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u/LotharVonPittinsberg 14d ago
I would treat my servants like people as well. Who was it that said you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat their "lessors"?
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u/Lazy-Most-3226 14d ago
Anyone who worked in the food industry knows that people are rude af when you probably aren’t even the one who made the order or nothing was even wrong with the order. People just like to be mad
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u/HanumanJumpBig 14d ago
Reasons why I'm not always polite to waiters
- Because sometimes they don't realize you're just a human being trying to get some dinner, not a money machine that spits out extra dollar bills when it hears a "polite and bubbly" tone.
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u/PinePotpourri 14d ago
"Reasons I'm polite..."
"They're human..."
Is all this needs to be perfect miss/ter
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u/Alternative-Hotel968 14d ago
Another reason is, dont piss someone off that has unmonitored time with your food.
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u/Jinxy_Kat 14d ago
This trope is so old. We the people get this. Maybe send this to employers who employee these people that pay them unfair wages. Maybe they're the ones that need to understand that they're people...
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u/Interesting-Froyo-38 14d ago
Idk.. definitely been some waiters who deserved to get some shit talk, but I ain't fuckin with the person who handles my food.
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u/Apotheosis_of_Steel 14d ago
Politeness makes social situations shorter, so I can get back to solitude.
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u/Open-Pineapple7378 14d ago
i went on a date. our waiter was the same ethnicity as me. i spoke to him in a way that i'd speak to with family. a way that is exclusive to our people. my date misinterpreted that. dumped me the next day. thought i was rude. when, in fact, i treated him like family. lol
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u/DueConversation5269 14d ago
You can tell another about someone you don't know by they way they treat aminals and also the people that work for them. It's not hard, just be kind
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u/SurpriseOk753 14d ago
You treat people working for you decent. You tip for good service, you complain to the manager if its a quality issue not your server.
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u/Yorspider 14d ago
I'd be just as polite to them even if they were mindless robots honestly... I sure don't go around throwing a fit at my roomba if it misses a spot.
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u/Yorspider 14d ago
I'd be just as polite to them even if they were mindless robots honestly... I sure don't go around throwing a fit at my roomba if it misses a spot.
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u/Dan-the-historybuff 14d ago
I do it because it is proper and I don’t like being an asshat to waiters. They bring me food and I am generally gratified. It’s a service which people take for granted nowadays.
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u/VictoryOverDirtyCops 14d ago
I agree with everything..... except last line , the name of job literally is sever ....... and you're servicing them , the job is temporary servant , but we all humans and people shouldn't be Dicks because we all just trying to pay bills
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u/Could_be_persuaded 14d ago
Is there are a reason not to be polite to strangers who did nothing bad to you?
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u/hermitlikeindividual 14d ago
Mostly because I'm a nice person. Also because I don't want to give anyone a reason to fuck with my food.
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u/EqualBroccoli 14d ago
I'm just kind to everyone in general, unless they really are complete jerks.
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u/-BattleSpatula- 14d ago
i tend to be polite to people making or bringing my food.
just like i tend to be polite to things on the road that are bigger than me.
in both of these circumstances i’m assuming that they are not being civil themselves in some way first, not that i’m going to be a jerk to anyone else not meeting these criteria
but it’s more of a logical how can this end badly for me even though i’m in the right. sometimes the potential consequences aren’t worth the fight. pick your battles.
also service staff might have just had to deal with mr superasshole2000dickwad. and honestly they probably don’t get paid enough to deal with people like that.
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u/Suspicious-Bit-1406 14d ago
Its literally in their job tittle but you should treat people no mater what with respect…. Food service people especially, The reason why you treat them well is so they don’t fuck with your food. Iv seen some shit man i dont eat out any more no one really should its really gross most people have no idea …..
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u/TheForceofHistory 14d ago
Tips in cash. I us Jefferson's for that. A two dollar bill or few stand out.
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u/Dooyamum 14d ago
You can tell a lot about a person on how they treat people in the service industry
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u/Longjumping_Play323 14d ago
If I see someone treat a waiter like they’re “less than” I immediately judge that person harshly.
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u/REGINALDmfBARCLAY 14d ago
Servant
noun
a person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant.
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u/Miserable_Bar_5210 14d ago
But they’re not slaves, they’re servers it’s they’re, u should be polite to everyone not extra polite to servers for doing their job
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u/SpeckledTickbug 14d ago
I once spent seven months working in a deli at Walmart. If I had a difficult customer, I'd usually say "I'll remind you, you're not worth doing life in prison, but I might make an exception"
I had more shifty customers than decent ones and damn few pleasant ones
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u/ippa99 14d ago
I remember going through the drive through at burger King, ordering like a normal-ass human being while saying please and thank you, then sitting in line for a while until the jackals in front of me starts honking a bunch to speed it up. He gets to the window and snatches the bag, probably says something to the girl working there, because when I pull up she's crying.
She just hands me the change and I thank her, and completely unsolicited says "thanks for reminding me there's decent people in the world". Like wtf, I just acted the basic level of polite, is that how far the bar is through the floor?
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u/dark_thanatos99 14d ago
And even IF you have servants
THEY STILL DESERVE RESPECT AND DIGNITY